So, You want to be successful in life, Huh? Well, welcome to the Human Race. Stop me if you’ve heard this before.
If only I had a million dollars my life would be better.
If only I had that person’s Talent my life would be easier.
If only I had this job, I would feel secure
If only I had a better relationship I would be happy
And a thousand other “IF” only statements. Here is the first Myth about success, are you ready? Of course, you are because if you only read the right thing your life would be different.
Success will make my life easier!~ Well, this is the whole: if I had a million dollar scenario, or made some viral youtube video that brought me instant fame, then my life would be exactly the way it is supposed to be.
Here is the deal folks and I am really reminding myself here. Success is not going to show up and remove all the problems from my life, like some sort of super-powered crap sucking vacuum.
Success is a weight of responsibility; I must become strong enough to carry. Otherwise, it will crush me. It is why we see so many examples of “famous for no reason people” falling apart at the seams in public. They are currently not strong enough to bear the immense weight required of incredible success. So be patient, if I am to be successful, it is going to take time to become strong enough to hold the weight.
I must Chase after Success~ Why do I run away from a massive dog that wants to eat me? Well, duh. It is because I am scared and don’t want to be eaten. Some people chase after success like a rabid dog and wonder why they are so exhausted and left starving at the end of the day.
I submit that we don’t have to run ourselves ragged chasing after something. That is not to say we do not have to improve. Because we must focus on ourselves and get better, but chasing after a million dollars or fame or glory or love all we end up doing is scaring that stuff off. I believe that we attract success by being worthy of it. That means that whatever level of life I am at right now, I can honestly say that even if I had millions of dollars and fame, love, glory and all the shiny things, I wouldn’t change the things I am currently doing.
Not would it give me a platform, but would it raise my platform? Because believe it or not we all have a platform to influence and be the most successful versions of our selves at the level we are at right now.
If you live in a trash can, help the guy sleeping on the street find a trash can of his own to live in. Don’t limit your ability to be a world changer because you feel you don’t have enough yet. When we practice this, living at the height of where we are right now our platform raises, and we don’t even notice it until more and more people start putting those gold medals of success around our necks.
Bonus on this one. You have to be willing to throw yourselves to the wolves and get chewed up. I submit that we learn to become dog trainers in doing so we no longer have to worry about the wolves eating us because we will teach them to follow us instead. (Lots of dog metaphors today.)
If it doesn’t come easy, it’s not meant for me.~ Ok, this can get confused with chasing after success or grinding. It is not that. The reality is just like Myth 1; success does not make life easier it makes life heavier, higher, more impactful.
So here is my thought on this: (Which means it is the only right way, haha)
Imagine a small village of around 100 or so people. This village requires water every day, but only has two buckets to fill at the well, and there is only one person in the village strong enough to carry the water. So, every day the person gets up and walks the path to get the water, and the path is long, it is really far away.
Deciding that having someone to help with the water choirs would be nice, the person brings their child along with them to get the water. And the first few days the child could barely make the journey, it was just so far. The child begs their parent to let them stay home, but the parent tells them no, you must walk.
Days, weeks, months and years pass, and every day the child walked the path with their parent. Only walking, not yet strong enough to carry, but now the child was getting older and stronger. The child was running the path now back and forth running circles around their parent. Until one day, the parent who had taken care of the village for so many years died. The responsibility now fell in the hands of the child. And when they put on the yoke to carry the water, it was lighter than they expected. They had grown so strong from walking the path every day that now they were able to bring water back to the entire village making multiple trips a day.
It won’t feel easy at first. It will feel hard for a long time maybe, maybe it won’t, but eventually, the weight of success will be placed on your shoulders. Will you be strong enough because you didn’t stop walking the path when it got tough, or will you be able to take care of the village that needs you to survive.
Keep going, keep working and loving and living. We all have a gift to share with the world. Be ready when the world drops the weight of success on your shoulders. Because it is coming, I promise.
Have a great day.