Focus: The Power of Clairity to Change Your Life


I could have said it was a coincidence. I could allow myself to believe that there was no intrinsic or more profound meaning to it. I could even say that it was pure dumb luck. But then I would be lying to myself, and I had to quit that along with the Alcohol.

I have shared on here a couple of times now about my road to recovery and the gifts I have found in my sobriety. Well, guess what another gift showed up last night. First a quick recap:

6months ago: Dying (Literally) from alcoholism, not the joking kind of dying like, oh if I eat another piece of cake I am going to die kind of thing. I mean waking up every morning throwing up blood and then reaching for the bottle of Vodka to wash the taste of decay and death out of my mouth, Dying

4Months ago: I am two months sober, my body and mind are beginning to heal and the program of AA is working wonders in my life. I am also spending a lot of time reading other literature to discover what I want to do with my life now that I am free of Alcohol. So a friend and I spend a lot of time at Barnes and Noble, reading books, playing scrabble and just talking about our likes and dislikes. When I stumble upon a book called: You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. I began to read the book, and the lights begin to turn on in my mind.

3months ago: I went on a job interview for work that I thought I wanted, only to experience the most humiliating defeating job interview of my life, I actually left covered in sweat and blood, all mine thankfully. That day I made a decision. I was going to follow some simple principals laid out in the book I just read and go after what I really want in Life, saying to Hell with all the limiting, self-defeating stories I have been telling myself my whole life. And I went back to the thing I had loved to do since as early as I can remember. I began to write stories.

1month ago: I began work on my now published book Trent Foster and The Council of 10. I wrote this freaking book like my life depended on it because I honestly believed it did.


I had set a list of goals for my writing career, created a vision board, hung my check, which I will receive one day and even hung a list of the top 13 bestselling Authors of All time in my room. I was hungry and wanted to be the best.

The Goal that sticks out to me today is: I will become an Amazon and NewYork times Bestselling Author. I know that is something I want and I am working every day to make it happen.

Here is the Magic of Focus and Clarity: You ready?

Yesterday: The very same Author a #1 New York Times BestSelling Author, Jen Sincero; who wrote You Are a Bad Ass, just so happened to be stopping by Atlanta only 20 mins from where I live to do a book signing. Not only that, but it was one of her smaller more private events taking place in a Barnes and Noble. Not only that, but me and my friend who 4 months ago sat in B&N looking at this book got Front Row seats Directly in front of Jen. Not only that, she had a Q&A portion in which I made the decision to raise my hand and tell her what her book had done for me and actually got a chance to give her a copy of the book that she helped inspire me to write. Not only that, but I also got a picture with her and some Bad Ass tips.

So, here is the point.

I became very clear with my goals of wanting to become a bestselling Author, and what happens? Not just any best selling Author shows up, but The best selling Author that inspired me to start writing shows up! 20 days after I finish my book She helped inspire me to write and because my friend is clear about what she wants as well, she discovered Jen was going to be in town the night before she comes to town.

I want to make this clear, I have never been to a book signing or met any famous people before in my life or anyone with #1 anything attached to their name (Mom & Dad’s dont count in this). So this was my very first encounter of this type, and it is not a Freaking Accident People.

I know WHAT,, and WHO, and WHY, I want to be what I want to be. I am crystal clear on it. However, I was not clear on exactly what it looks like. Well, last night I got to see a glimpse of what it looks like, and I am going to tell you something. My ass was on fire to be the best and write what I love every day to inspire others and change my life before this happened. But, this morning I am radiating with the energy and fire of what my life can look like.

So, I implore each and every one of you that reads this. Get as clear as you possibly can about what you want out of life and then set about each day to make that happen. You never know when the opportunity will come to share what you did with the person that inspired you.

Hell, I gave her my book, Ha, the idea still blows my mind. She could read it and love it or hate it. But I gave it to her because she gave it to me first.

Get out there and get moving, YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT.  And You Are A Badass!



Published by Matthew Whiteside

I am a writer, a storyteller, a yarn-spinning freakazoid. My life is full of two things today, lessons and blessings. I write fiction mostly but I also love to write about my life and the things I go through on a daily basis. Writing it out inspires and motivates me and that's why I do it. Plus if it does that for me maybe it will for someone else too.

14 thoughts on “Focus: The Power of Clairity to Change Your Life

  1. Great post! God and the Universe were definitely showing you that you’re on the right track. Keep moving forward. Intuition tells me you’re going to be there, and faster than you thought possible.

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  2. Im so happy for you. Meeting her was definitely a dream come true for you. Going through such a rough path earlier and finding yourself is an achievement. This is simple your reward and an added bonus. Continue to ignite the fire within you. Your story has inspired me as well 🙂

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  3. I should have read this one before 🙂 happy you reached this point and wish you’ll be a bestseller writer very soon! Your story reminds me of Paulo Coelho book the Alchemist and specifically the quote: « when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it » I believe in this and I’m sure you will reach your goal! Best of luck 😊

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  4. Great post! I’m 141 days into my own sobriety, so this hits home for me as a writer and as a person in recovery. I’m glad you’ve found your way in the woods now that the booze goblin isn’t trying to lure you off the path. For further recovery reading, I really enjoyed “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson, “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle, “The Biology of Desire” by Marc Lewis, and “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace. Congratulations on your sobriety, and all the best with your writing!

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    1. Thank you, booze goblin, haha I have written alot about that path in earlier post on my blog. and I have read the first two books you listed I will check out the others. Thank your comments and Congratulations on your 141 days that is fantastic. It is possible and it is soooooooo much freaking better.

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      1. So much better! I try not to have regrets, but I do wish I’d realized how much better my life would be without alcohol years ago, haha. But I am also very grateful that I’ve learned that now, and not twenty years from now.

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