Fear gives Meaning to Victory


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Fear is always around us.  It is in every corner, every crevice, every second, every moment of our existence.  It pesters us, it prods at us.  Poking us in the chest forcing us back into a corner.  Telling us we have nothing to offer nothing to say or do for the world.

I have been consumed by fear alot in my life.  I will not allow it anymore.  I have a choice.  A choice everyday to walk through fear.  What will I choose?

The reality is, when we feal fear about a certain thing it is most likely the thing we most want to do.  Fear creeps in telling us not to attempt it because what if we fail at the thing we really want to do.  Then what?  What is the point of living, then?

Fear is acting as a survival mechanism in this regard.  It is honestly trying to keep us alive by not allowing us to attempt the thing that can simaltaneously give us the most joy and also give us the greatest since of failure.

Failure is ok though, it is not a death sentence.  Remember, you don’t have to get it right the first time or even the second time.  In reality, people don’t want to see perfect people.

No one is excited to watch a train happily chugging down the tracks, we want to see that Little Engine go flying off the tracks.  Haha

We are sick like that as humans.  And I am not calling you a train wreck, I am merely saying it is ok to make mistakes and look stupid.  In fact I am finding that it is alot of fun actually.

Not to mention, if I continue to let fear keep me from doing the things that give me the most joy in life, well then my life will be a meaningless waist any way.  What is the point of going to the grave having played it safe and hiding all the crazy, fun, exciting gifts that I was given from the world.

We am not here to hide for the LOVE OF PETE!!!  We are here to Shine. 

Do what scares you today.  On the other side of fear is victory!

Have a Blessed and wonderful day


Published by Matthew Whiteside

I am a writer, a storyteller, a yarn-spinning freakazoid. My life is full of two things today, lessons and blessings. I write fiction mostly but I also love to write about my life and the things I go through on a daily basis. Writing it out inspires and motivates me and that's why I do it. Plus if it does that for me maybe it will for someone else too.

7 thoughts on “Fear gives Meaning to Victory

  1. “In reality, people don’t want to see perfect people”—-this is true. We feel this sense of camaraderie in others the moment we see t
    others flaws and fears. It is when we open up and become vulnerable, it is that allows us to connect with others so that others may help us conquers our fears. I’m not sure if that makes total sense but anyway.
    Great post as usual 😊

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  2. I’m teaching my kids how to skate right now. Well, I’m not teaching them much. I haven’t been on the ice in 20 years and I’m re-learning myself, haha. So we are learning to skate together. The first time we were on the ice, the entire two hours was spent falling over and learning to get back up again. My son was getting really frustrated, because he really wants to be a hockey player, and before we actually tried he’d already envisioned himself as a pro.

    I tried to explain to him that every time he fell down, his body was learning something about balance. If you lean too far that way, you fall. If you put your foot like that, you fall. And at first, there are a lot of “wrong” things your brain needs to sort out before it starts figuring out what works. The second time we went out, he hardly fell at all, and was able to take little gliding steps. And when he did fall, he was a pro at getting back up!

    This made me think a lot about the way our brains are designed. It is impossible to learn anything if we don’t fail at it repeatedly. There are limits to what we can learn just by reading about other people’s experiences. There are limits to what we can learn from success, our own or others’. We have to try it ourselves and fail over and over again if we actually want to get any good at anything. The only thing that is certain is that if you get frustrated and quit, you’re not ever going to get better.

    Fear is designed to keep us alive in life-threatening situations. But there are huge rewards for those who accept fear, push through it, and challenge themselves to get things wrong. We aren’t fighting saber-toothed cats anymore! Most of the time, the things we are “afraid” of can’t really hurt us.

    Apparently I need to write a blog post about this myself, haha

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    1. Haha yeah apparently my incredible writing and talking style got you all fired up. Haha. I’ll take credit. Jk. Thank you for the awesome response. Next you have to start tripping yoir children so they now how to start hockey fights

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