Stupid Ideas

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Success and failure, when did they become so mind altering?  In the same vein, when did figuring out who I am, become so difficult?

The complexities with which I presume to see the world are really just egotistical arrogance based in believing my sensory perception to be the all knowing all seeing Eye.

I see other people that are living exciting fulfilled lives and think, what is the common denominator here?  My perception always tells me money, because that is what I see, I see the result.

When in reality what is really happening is these people with all these great results have these things because of being who they are.  They have a well-defined idea of themselves whether I believe it is right or wrong doesn’t matter.

The truth is as a culture we idolize those that are rich and famous because they are doing something we are so afraid to do.  Which is put themselves out there for the entire world to see?  The good and the bad.

Then what I fool myself into believing is that I need to be just like person A. who is doing these magnificent things and making all this wonderful money.

When in reality the only way for me to become fulfilled is to do be exactly who I am to the highest version of myself.

I will run around confused and in a cloud of trying to discover who I am if I continue looking to other people for the answer.

Figuring out who you are is not as difficult as it seems, it is extremely uncomfortable and definitely scary.  But it is not difficult.

Ask yourself this.  What do you like and dislike?  Simple question.  Could you make a list?

If you can make a list and see that you spend way more time doing things you dislike than things you like then we are on to something.

Once I became clear about Who I was by identifying the things that I loved to do life became pretty simple, spend as much time as possible doing the things you love and as little time as possible doing the things you hate or dislike.

Now, this does not mean that I eat ice cream and cookies all day long, it means I do the things that I am afraid to do because of what others might think of me.  Like public speaking, writing a book, making silly movies or videos.

I mean do the things that you know fulfill you and stop doing the things that don’t.

Do not confuse being full, with being fulfilled.  Cookies and ice cream will fill me, but it will not fulfill me to the level of peace, happiness and longterm growth that I seek.

So, to do this we must SMASH those stupid ideas of what we believe success and failure to be and open our selves up to who we really are.

We are all different in some way, explore that.  Before you can become the most fantastic person in the world find out Who you are.

“When I stopped trying to be someone else, I realized I already was someone.” -Me

That truth opened up a new universe of possibilities, where Success and Failure do not exist there is only experiencing life just as it is.  If I am not pleased with my life then I must make a change.

So, I ask you.  Who are you?  Are you happy with your ideas of life?


Published by Matthew Whiteside

I am a writer, a storyteller, a yarn-spinning freakazoid. My life is full of two things today, lessons and blessings. I write fiction mostly but I also love to write about my life and the things I go through on a daily basis. Writing it out inspires and motivates me and that's why I do it. Plus if it does that for me maybe it will for someone else too.

19 thoughts on “Stupid Ideas

  1. Very inspiring and straight to the point! I guess we always distract ourselves and procrastinate because we’re so damn afraid and this is the problem, if we remained afraid, we’ll never get where we want!
    “When I stopped trying to be someone else, I realized I already was someone.” This is a great quote for a great writer: Matthew Whiteside 🙂 WTG!

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    1. Thank you Huguetta. I am glad you enjoyed my rambling thought as I move into another phase of my life I keep getting this pull like I’m chasing someone elses shadow. Trying daily to remind myself i am Me that’s all I have ever needed to be and that is the only reason I have what I do today.

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      1. It’s a fair battle, to keep reminding yourself and keep moving forward is all what you need despite all the doubts and feelings you’ll have, they’ll probably always be there I believe but beating them is the key 👍

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  2. I love when you give your reader questions to reflect on. I read this piece this morning and have been thinking about my list of things all day. What a delightful way to think of all the things I love.

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